Happy New Year!
“We are what and where we are because we have first imagined it.” Donald Curtis
While it is always tempting to put far too much emphasis on any one day or in this case, a new year, it does seem appropriate to take some stock of where we’ve been, where we want to be and of course the all important “How,” as in How best to get there! For many of us this opportune day will take the form of “new year resolutions” and just as predictably for many it will mean that these “resolutions” will be broken and put away nearly as quickly as they were taken out. Sort of like some of the holiday gifts received by the youngest among us! However, these “resolutions” are really nothing more than personal and professional goals. And achieving them is as much science as it is art, determination, willpower or general “stick-to-it-iveness.”
Years ago, my wife Mara and I began to approach goal-setting in a far more scientific way than ever before. Not coincidentally, we also began to reach more and more of our goals in a shorter fashion than ever before! While I don’t profess to have cornered the market of successful goal-setting and successful goal-reaching, I have learned some lessons about this through trial and error and of course “modeling” others who seemed to really know better than I, what they were doing in this regard. below are the Top 5 Lessons of successful goal-setting that have worked the best for us. I hope they work for you in your new year’s resolutions as well!
1. Write it Down! Saying your goals out loud to yourself is one thing, even sharing it with family and friends is another, but nothing seems to register with your brain or triggers you to take something serious as when you write it down and keep the goal in front of you as you try and pursue it.
2. Be precise! Many people lose the battle with resolutions before they barely begin because of imprecision. For example, you could say “I’d like to lose weight.” Well, let’s say you lost a pound. Have you reached your goal? What if you say “I’d like to lose 50 pounds?” That might be a more inspiring and worthy goal but you’d also need to be precise as to When you wanted to reach your goal. Many want overnight success which could be unhealthy, we can’t forget that we didn’t get overweight by eating too much for one meal! Works the same with money. Many want to be wealthier. But if someone gave you a quarter you would technically have more money than before, but would you have reached your goal? Being specific in what and when you want something makes it more likely you will eventually get what you seek.
3. Don’t neglect the “How!” All goal-setting needs to be followed up with the “How” or plan of action to reach the goal. The best way I learned of creating the way is actually not to try and re-invent the wheel but to look around and note who was doing or had already done what I wanted to do. How did they get there? How did they make it happen? Chances are good that I could use their example and “model” my steps after what they did. The not-so secret is that they probably did the same when they were first starting on their path to reaching their stated (and written) goal.
4. Be Accountable! Many of us don’t state a goal, write it down and then share or announce it to family and friends because of the obvious risk to our reputation if we don’t actually reach the goal. But here’s what seems to be an aspect of the science of goal-setting-the more we share the deeper our commitment to our goal seems to be. Keeping it to yourself only seems to make it that much easier to ditch when the going gets rough.
5. Have Fun Along the Way! The reason why so many of us seek “miracle weight loss plans” or “overnight success” is that who really wants to go through the frequent drudgery of reaching a goal? I’ve found that if I can have fun at least at stops along the way to a goal I am more likely to stick to the goal even when there are times when it seemed more struggle than it was worth.
I can tell you that looking at the goals I set over the years there does seem to be some remarkable consistency in many of them. Serving the public, trying to make a positive difference, connecting with other like-minded people, trying to continue to cultivate and nurture my faith and my family, these seem to have and continue to run through many of my goals. I still have many I want to reach and the challenge this represents still keeps me real motivated.
And what are some of my 2010 New Years Resolutions? Well, I want to wake up each day and continue to be the best husband, father teacher, mediator and leader I can possibly be. Specifically, I want to earn the honor of being elected US Congressman for District 7, Tennessee by the good people of this district. Now that’s a goal worth working as hard as I can possibly work for to make this dream come true.
What dreams do you have for 2010?
“Nothing Happens Unless First a Dream”-Carl Sandburg